Let's be honest, your level of self-confidence is crucial to anything you set yourself out to accomplish, but building and solidifying your self-confidence isn't something that happens overnight. Strengthening your self-confidence is, and forever will be, a work in process.
Disclaimer: I don't want you to think I have my life perfectly figured out—because I'm far from it. But one thing I've learned along the way (which I secretly wish I’d known sooner) is this: when it comes to achieving your goals confidence is everything. Fake it ‘till you make it? There’s no other choice.
When you believe in yourself, anything is possible. Yes, anything. Why? Because when you trust yourself and are fully confident about your unique skills and capabilities, your overall perspective on life switches to a brand new gear!
Soon, you’ll notice how certain situations you saw as obstacles in the past look more like areas of opportunity. Same with mistakes and failures, these will bring about your most cherished life lessons.
When you acknowledge your hard work and see the great potential in all of your efforts, no one task will seem too big or impossible to achieve. This is because self-confidence is not just a powerful tool, it is the motor which will drive you to achieve your greatest ambitions.
Why is self-confidence so important when it comes to achieving your goals and dreams?
Like I said, anything is possible when you believe it can be achieved. Your mind is such a powerful tool, a magnet for both positive and negative outcomes. When your thoughts are vibrating in a positive and confident frequency, all they'll attract are favorable outcomes (be mindful, it works the same when you're in negative mode.) So look at it this way, if you don’t believe in yourself, how can you expect others to believe in your ideas, aspirations, and dreams? Right?
Most importantly, if you don’t believe in yourself, what’s the point of even trying to make your dreams a reality when there is no foundation to sustain them? Have you thought about this? I have.
There is no logic in attempting to carry out a project, regardless of its size and complexity, and having little to no faith in your capabilities to achieve it. The moment you adopt this line of thought, it’s game over. You’ve officially become your worst enemy.
How do I start to work on my self-confidence?
This one took me a little while to master, and I’m still working on it. Self-confidence isn’t a trait you simply acquire overnight. It takes time, self-compassion, and a whole lot of patience.
It’ll require your full and wholehearted trust in yourself because self-confidence comes from no place other than within.
- From doing what you know is best for you, regardless of what others may think is best.
- From trusting your instincts and following your intuition.
- From trial and error.
- From the unquenchable thirst within you to achieve your goals and ambitions, because you’ve come this far and you owe it to yourself.
It’s crazy to think how easy it is for us to self-sabotage our journeys towards success, sometimes without even noticing we're doing so. But all of this stops the moment you believe you can, and trust me, darling, you will.
So stop being your worst enemy for once. I’ve been guilty of this myself but there comes a point where you have to draw a line for the sake of your sanity. Enough is enough.
What else can I do to keep solidifying my self-confidence?
Rule of thumb, keep yourself in check. The moment you begin to feel that insecurity creeping in, catch it and stop yourself.
Sometimes when anxiety hits us we tend to let our thoughts go into overdrive. All of a sudden, it seems as if our fears have fully taken over and are driving us through this nightmarish road of no return. I know this feeling all too well, but here’s where you have to change your mental narrative.
Begin by reminding yourself who is in control, you or your emotions? You know the answer. Your emotions can’t take over unless you let them. So take a moment to acknowledge how you're feeling. Breathe through it and put it to rest by knowing you're in control, you always will be, and though it's natural to feel the way you're feeling, those emotions have absolutely no power over you. Don't let them win.
Hold yourself accountable for everything. And when I say everything, I mean everything. When working towards my goals, developing timelines has proven to be the most successful tool I’ve found for tracking my progress. I try to set up monthly goal plans and evenly spread out my tasks in order of priority, taking into consideration the length of each project.
Once I’ve done all the necessary research, have set up a timeline, and a schedule to accompany it, I work every day to make those goals a reality and I hold myself 100% accountable for advancing or delaying my progress.
Life can get a bit complicated and it's perfectly understandable if you have to tweak your plans from time to time, but don't let it become a habit. Go about your schedule as if your life depended on it, because it does, and perform every task with confidence, diligence, and trust in your capabilities.
Also, making a list of your past successes and accomplishments is always a solid reminder. Give it a read before tackling a new project. If you were able to finish something in the past, you'll continue to do so in the future. Little reminders like these come in handy when you're looking to keep yourself focused on the end goal, trusting you'll be able to make it.
Lastly, keep your head up and feel free to reach out whenever you need an extra push in the right direction!
With all my love,