Let's be honest, your level of self-confidence is crucial to anything you set yourself out to accomplish, but building and solidifying your self-confidence isn't something that happens overnight. Strengthening your self-confidence is, and forever will be, a work in process.
As I'm writing this, I don't want you to think I have my life perfectly figured out, because I'm far from it. But one thing I've learned along the way (which I secretly wish I’d known sooner) is, when it comes to achieving your goals confidence is everything.
Fake it ‘till you make it? There’s no other choice.
Truth of the matter is, when you believe in yourself, anything is possible. Yes, anything. Why? Because when you trust yourself and are fully confident about your unique skills and capabilities, your overall perspective on life switches to a brand new gear.
Soon you’ll notice how certain situations you saw as obstacles in the past turn into areas of opportunity. Same with mistakes and failures, these will become your most cherished life lessons.
When you acknowledge your hard work and see the great potential in all of your efforts, no one task will seem too big or impossible to achieve. This is because self-confidence is not just a powerful tool, it is the motor which will drive you to achieve your greatest ambitions.
Why is self-confidence such a crucial factor when it comes to achieving your goals and dreams?
As I previously mentioned, anything is possible when you believe it can be. But look at it this way, if you don’t believe in yourself how can you expect others to believe in your ideas and aspirations?
Most importantly, if you don’t believe in yourself what’s the point of even trying to make your dreams a reality when there is no foundation to sustain them? Have you thought about this? I know I have.
There is simply no logic in attempting to carryout a project, regardless of its size and complexity, and having little to no faith in your competencies to achieve it. The moment you adopt this line of thought, it’s over. You’ve officially become your worst enemy.
But how do I even start to work on my self-confidence?
Believe it or not, this one took me a little while to master, and I’m still working on it. Self-confidence isn’t a trait you simply acquire over night. It takes time and a whole lot of patience to achieve.
It’ll require your full and wholehearted trust because self-confidence comes from no place other than within.
- From doing what you know is best for you, regardless of what others may think is best.
- From trusting your instincts and following your intuition.
- From trial and error.
- From the unquenchable thirst within you to achieve those goals and ambitions, because you’ve come this far and you owe it to yourself.
It’s crazy how easy it is for us to sabotage our journeys to success, sometimes without even being aware of it! But all of this stops the moment you believe that you can, and trust me darling you will.
So cut it out with the self-sabotage and stop being your worst enemy. I do admit, I’ve been guilty of this myself but there comes a point where you have to draw a line to sustain your own sanity. Enough is enough!
What else can I do to keep solidifying my self-confidence?
Rule of thumb, keep yourself in check. The moment you begin to feel insecurity and doubt creeping in, stop yourself.
Sometimes when anxiety hits us, we tend to let our thoughts go into overdrive (and not the super positive type of overdrive). All of a sudden it seems as if our fears have fully taken over and are driving us through this nightmarish road of no return. I know this feeling all too well, but here’s where you have to act fast!
Begin by reminding yourself who is in control, you or your emotions? You already know the answer to this! Your emotions can’t overpower you unless YOU let them. YOU possess total control over yourself, your thoughts, moods, and feelings included. Don’t ever forget that.
Hold yourself accountable for everything. And when I say everything, I mean everything.
When setting up and working towards my goals, developing time lines has proven to be the most successful tool I’ve found for tracking my progress. I try to set up quarterly goal plans and evenly spread out my tasks in order of priority, taking into consideration the length of the projects.
Once I’ve done all the necessary research, have set up a time line, and a schedule to accompany it, I work every day to make those goals a reality and I hold myself 100% accountable for advancing or delaying my progress.
I know how life can get a little complicated at times and it is perfectly understandable if you have to tweak your plans from time to time, but don't let it become a habit. Go about your work plan and schedule as if your life depended on it, because it does, and perform every task with confidence, diligence, and trust in your capacities to achieve it.
Lastly, making a list of past successes and giving it a solid read before tackling a new task or situation will help you feel more confident in yourself. Little reminders like these are great ways to keep yourself focused and to refresh on what you’ve achieved so far!
So hun, keep your head up and feel free to reach out whenever you need an extra push in the right direction!