What happened? Well, I had an old MacBook Pro from 2012 and I wasn’t able to unload the 700+ videos and photographs to its memory. I had an external drive but even transferring the files from the SD card to my external memory took a hot minute. So I decided to download them in batches; as soon as I began drafting a blog post about a specific city, I would extract the files pertaining to that particular portion of our trip over time. Makes sense, right?
I kept my SD card inside my wallet during the first few days after getting back from our trip, anticipating the moment I would finally download the remaining files to my computer. And that was it. What happened to the card? No clue. I might have lost it somewhere between opening my wallet to get my metro card and getting on the subway. Not only was my blog content for the next month and a half lost, but the vast majority of the physical evidence around the memories we created together was gone as well. Just like that.
What to do when life gives you lemons?
I’ve talked about letting go of what you can’t control in the past, but what happens when due to your carelessness, you fault and your poor attention to detail forces you to change your course of action? I guess I’m not talking about simply losing my SD card anymore. I’m talking about similar circumstances you have to endure as part of your day-to-day. You feel me?
Ever since this incident happened, I’ve been reflecting more and more about how life doesn’t always go as planned and how we deal with these situations. A lot of these thoughts came to mind during a weekend getaway to Long Beach (where the main shot of this post was taken—thanks, Terry!) and during this weekend’s Elements Music & Arts Festival. It marvels me how much of an introspection and solid reflection we can carry out when we give our minds a break; a mental reset.
So, when life gives you lemons, you own up to it. There’s no way around it. There’s also no point in playing the blame game. Whether it was on you or not, you won’t accomplish anything by assigning fault to your particular situation. When life gives you lemons, take a step back and ask yourself,
"Am I going to sit here, moping and wallowing about the lemons in my life? About the things which didn’t go according to plan? Or am I going to learn from this experience, stand up, brush it off, and move forward?"
The harsh reality is, life doesn’t stop for anyone. Things go right, things go wrong, and the world keeps spinning (kinda sounds like the lyrics to a 90’s song, lol.) The choice is yours, are you going to let a negative or unforeseen event stop you and derail you from your path? I don’t think so.
At the end of the day, I cried. I’ll admit it. When life gave me lemons,
- Yes, I was entitled to feel upset.
- Yes, I gave myself time to acknowledge my feelings of frustration.
- Yes, I let all the sadness and anger out.
But once I did, I refocused my strategy and my game plan.
- I took a breath and a moment to regain my center.
- I reflected on the lessons learned and internalized what I could do differently in the future.
- Then, and only then, was I able to reroute my course of action and decided I was going to keep moving forward.
As for the lost photos, at least I still have a few photographic memories on my phone (check gallery below), but most importantly, I have the memories of all the places we went to, the things we did, the food we tried, the jokes we made, the delight we felt, inside my heart—forever and always.
P.S. What will you do next time life gives you a lemon or two? ;)